Ep. 3 Quantum Leap Thru Your Emotions into Revenues with Aaron Delgrolice of Hybrid Fitness Training
Updated: Jan 27, 2023
Bethany Londyn 1:15
Alright Thank you for joining. We have today a special guest, my trainer who is freaking phenomenal. His name is Aaron from hybrid fitness training.com Check him out. And he will be sharing with us how he overcame depression and anxiety using these cool tools that now I do when I work with him, as well as his unconventional ways of working out some of his key affirmations and then also learning how he leaned into a micro niche thus creating himself a huge magnet for clients such as me. Let's welcome Aaron from hybrid fitness training. To the Quantum Leap your business and life podcast today we have Aaron Dell girlis. He is a phenomenal trainer and one of mine. And I've been working with him for a couple months. And I just have to say, he is booked up. So if you want to get into him, you gotta like work your magic and beg because for me, this is I just want to share my experience really quick. My friend was talking about how she was working out with this guy. And he was doing all these eye movements, and she was so sore. And he was a physical trainer. And I'm like, what he was doing eye movements. And she's like, Yeah, I don't know, whatever it was we do these eye movements. And then I could do the move. So I'm like, Oh, my goodness, I need to check this out. Like, I just knew I didn't know anything about you. I didn't Google you or anything I just knew in my body. I'm like, I need to work out with this guy. And so that's what I'm all about, like following that intuition. So then when I meet him, he's like, Well, what's your goal? And he like, didn't even want to really work with me. I felt like unless I claimed a goal, like I want to be there then he's like, okay, yeah, now I have something to work towards. But why don't you explain what you do? Because it is very unique. And then we can dive in to the quantum leap?
Movement Neurology Technique.
Aaron Delgrolice 3:12
Yeah, okay. Absolutely. Well, I mean, to just follow up on that, it's not that I didn't want to work with you, I was just trying to get an idea of, you know, what you were looking for? Because I wasn't quite sure you were just like, Yeah, I'm kind of interested. So. But you know, what they say to is, you know, get to know somebody a little bit better. And then obviously, once we spoke for a little bit longer, it was able to kind of hone in on some things that are like, okay, she wants this, I can help her with that. But to then expand on what you're saying. Yes. So, over the last, I would say, five or six years, I've started looking into kind of a technique called movement. neurology is kind of the phrase for it, I guess. And what that is, is it's kind of combining anatomy, kinesiology, biomechanics, and movement practices that we do and fitness and marrying those concepts or applying those concepts in conjunction with neurology and neurology methodologies, such as visual training, vestibular training, tapping into the cerebellum, tapping into the nervous system. And so that I've been really fascinated with that. I've been on a journey, like set over the last five or six years to really try to learn and obtain and absorb as much knowledge as I could, or as I can, that is surrounded by this movement, neurology technique. You know, where like I said, we're layering in neurology drills with movement drills. And obviously, as we speak, we can talk about the benefits and the side. It said a lot of that. But yeah, so fascinating show. That's kind of what I do. And like I said, it deals with tapping into the visual system, the vestibular system, and cerebellum and other things through specific drills that you can do, through scientifically proven research drills, that light up areas of the brain that light up these systems, so that you can get more out of your training and more out of your body. So, yeah, yeah, so
Bethany Londyn 5:31
I think one of the key so first off, he has micro niche to himself so much into this space, that it creates a magnetic pole, because I know some of you guys are new to listening with me, but I I'm all about the spiritual, I'm all about listening to the body. So like when he is micro niche, so, so well, that it was like a little poll for me talking to my friend that I needed to work with this guy, because I knew that he would not only help me with fitness, but it would help with my mind. Because when I'm doing intuitive work with clients, it's like, that's, that's the stuff I deal with is my brain and allowing my brain to be open to receive the guidance. And also, I would say my reaction times are improving, and I'm noticing what is it that the range like that I can see. So all notice things. Yeah, way outside of my normal range, like while driving or playing tennis or anything, because of this work. So it's more than just
Aaron Delgrolice 6:31
a physical workout. Well, and that's, that's the point, you make a good point. And that's what I try to tell people as well as, obviously, yes, you're coming to the gym, we're working out, we're using these concepts within movement within a, you know, safe structured environment. But really, the the benefits are vast, you know, they they add him to add up not only to physical benefits, but also emotional, psychological, intuitive, spiritual, because it's all connected. And that's the point. And a lot of it is to help people get into a flow state to help them understand their bodies better to have better, what's called interoception, proprioception, extra perception. So your ability to, to kind of create your brain creates these 3d maps of your body in various ways. There's, there's many multiple 3d maps that the brain creates. And so we're trying to tap in and make those maps much clearer, so that the brain and the body can communicate better. And that has a host of benefits, not only physical, like I said, there are other components to it. And part of what I'm trying to do is with my clients, obviously train them in a controlled environment, and help them tap into these things. So that when they go out of the gym into an uncontrolled environment, and an unpredictable environment, such as, you know, the office, work, life, whatever is going on, you're better able to handle, you know, whatever gets kind of thrown at you handle the stress make better decisions. These mechanisms deal with like future planning and emotions, a lot of things which can which can be very beneficial for work for life for relationships. And for movement, as well, it all, you know, I'll keep probably tying it all back into movement, because there's much more of our brain actually, is required for movement. And then other things, even for language and speech, more of our brain is dedicated to movement than even to language, or speaking. So movement, and the brain is a very, very big thing that actually kind of bleeds into everything else, or kind of affects everything else. And one of the quotes that I like to use is it says that movement is the scaffolding for cognition. So having better movement and movement abilities will actually in turn, create better cognitive abilities, cognitive awareness. And also to your point real quick. When you were talking about your peripheral vision and improving or your ambient vision, your ability to kind of see things around without looking at them. You know that that's obviously very important when it comes to just daily life. When you're driving when you're walking when you're doing things. A lot of that stems from training, the visual system, our visual system, our eyes, essentially, they take in about 80 to 90% of the information that we're receiving from our environment. So 80 to 90% of everything, all the information that's going into our brain is coming from our eyes. So if we train our eyes and make our eyes stronger and better better able to process information around us, then that can make everything in our body and our brain and system just function that much better. And so that's why I'm so fascinated with this stuff. Because when you really look at the science behind it, you really start to see the benefits and how much of those just tapping into these systems and training them even a little bit can be very, very beneficial for for everyday life and all aspects. Yeah. So
Bethany Londyn 10:29
and and so you've been doing this practice five to six years, how long have you been doing training?
Aaron Delgrolice 10:36
I've been a trainer for going on 16 years now. Thanks. So I'm basically I got almost 17 years actually, I got certified in 2005. The end of the day of 2005. Then I got hired at Equinox basically in 2006 lakhs I got hired in 2005. We opened the gym in 2006. So, yeah, I've been been a trainer ever since then, essentially. So.
Bethany Londyn 11:06
And if I were to ask you, so I was asking him when we were training the other day, I'm like, what, you know, how'd you get started? And he kind of quote unquote, fell into it. I love that line. But then I'm like, well, where's the quantum leap? He's like, Oh, that's a story. So where is the quantum leap?
History of anxiety, panic attacks and depression
Aaron Delgrolice 11:25
So, yes, the quantum leap. Yeah, I mean, like I said, to reiterate, I, I've been a trainer for 16 years, but for about the first seven or eight years of it, I was learning basic training concepts, and which was great, I learned a ton, I would like said I was working at Equinox, cutting my teeth at Equinox, it was a great place to start. I met a lot of cool people learned a lot of great knowledge, went through a ton of certification courses, nutrition courses, kettlebell courses, all of the education that Equinox takes you through in order to like jump up and their tiers. And, you know, I was basically the highest tier trainer you could be. So it wasn't that I wasn't, you know, learning knowledge and really perfecting my craft, but I didn't have that quantum leap until I started being affected myself physically. And so what happened was, is I started having panic attacks and severe anxiety, which kind of turned into depression. And there was a reason for that mean that none of this stuff happens for no reason, it doesn't just come out of nowhere, right. And a lot of times what people you know, unfortunately start having depression, anxiety, some of these things, pain, whatever it is, these these things are manifested from years and years of have learned behaviors or traumas or abuse or whatever has been going on in, you know, a person's life. And what happens is the nervous system, and I'm gonna go back to the nervous system a little bit, the nervous system files all these things away, so, and the nervous system doesn't know the difference between physical, mental, psychological, emotional trauma, it's all trauma to the nervous system. And the nervous system files it away like a filing cabinet or computer. Another analogy you could use as a bucket, the nervous system is a bucket, you can only put so much into that before it starts overflowing and spilling out and causing issues and sending off threats signals and alarm signals and that type of thing. And so, you know, for me a question,
Bethany Londyn 13:37
quick question, is the trauma that you were dealing with, with the panic and all that anxiety? Was that current or was it related to childhood? Because I'm, that's what I'm always doing with clients. I'm curious.
Aaron Delgrolice 13:50
Yeah. Well, I mean, again, you know, you can't, can't really separate any of it ultimately, can some of it be more of a contributing factor? Absolutely. So to answer your question, I would say, I don't know if it was as much childhood because fortunately for me, I actually another backstory to this is, I was sent to what's called a therapeutic boarding school at one point. So I'd actually been to a couple of boarding schools, I'd been kicked out of school a few times. I was a little bit of a troublemaker back in the day. I got you know, I was really I was getting good grades. I was playing sports. I was just making some unwise decisions and getting in fights and dabbling in alcohol and you know, not I wouldn't say Drugs, marijuana, because at the time in Arizona, marijuana was like a really, you know, bad thing and you could get in trouble and I wasn't doing hard drugs or anything, per se but so anyways, I got kicked out of school parents didn't really know what to do with me. They sent me a one boarding school. That boarding school told me not to come back. Scott sent to another boarding school, which was a therapeutic boarding school. And the reason I'm saying on this is because at that therapure therapeutic boarding school, we did a lot of emotional work. We did counseling sessions three days a week. And then we would do these really intense workshops, every like three months or so we would have like a, it was close to like 72 hour workshops where we would go in on Friday evenings. And when I say we, we have what's called your family. So when you you get to the school, what happens is, is, as you move in, they start they put you into a group, so over the course of about three months, you know, let's say 20 or 30 Kids moves in, that creates what's called a family. So they put all of us together and they make us a family. Now this school had had different kind of rungs or ladders that you would move up and and the longer you were in school, and they were six month increments, every six months you would move up in a school. So you start as a beginner bit beginning school, then you go to middle school, then you go to Upper School, then you go into what's called Leadership. Anyways, the whole time that you're doing this process, like I said, every few months, you're going through these really, really intense emotional workshops with your family. So with this other group of kids that you moved in with, and these workshops, I mean, they're they're very intense. Like I said, you start on a Friday night, you work all through the weekend until Sunday. You're basically isolated from the school, you're only with your family, you're doing very intense, like, you know, yelling at the floor punching pillows, like sad music, you're crying you're like, so very, very,
Bethany Londyn 16:42
that is amazing. I'm like may bring that into the public school system, please.
Aaron Delgrolice 16:47
I mean, for you know, don't get me wrong. The school had some faults, but for all its faults, there was I got to an education, emotional education, that I don't think a lot of kids get Unfortunately, most people don't get until they're adults. And then they're dealing with even more stuff that not only are they dealing with childhood issues, they're now dealing with all the repercussions as an adult Oh, stuff they didn't deal with maybe, you know, from their childhoods. So fortunately for me, I was able to deal with a lot of that now, getting back to your point long story kind of coming back around.
Bethany Londyn 17:23
That was really interesting to me.
Aaron Delgrolice 17:26
Yeah, is I felt like a lot of now don't get me wrong, there were still probably things, you know, that maybe didn't get resolved. But I felt like a lot of that I was able to resolve with my parents had reconnected with my parents, there was a lot of things I was able to kind of heal within myself from my childhood kind of traumas in a sense. Now, I'm sure some of that has been carried with me and I wasn't, didn't leave that school perfect. And I actually left the school early, I didn't even graduate that school because I left early. That's a whole nother story. And so when I got out of the school I was still dealing with I was still making some poor choices. And you know, I wasn't getting in trouble. I learned a lot, I learned a lot of responsibility. I learned a lot more about my emotions and and that was actually where I really started working out for the first time and like really getting into fitness. So to your point, the the panic attacks, and depression and anxiety and a lot of that stuff that came later. Yeah, I think there probably was still a component from residuals of just I think, growing up most of my life. Even after I got to that school, I had anxiety that I wasn't really been aware of. Until I started becoming kind of aware of it, maybe understanding it better. But I think there was, there was some of that I think more of it had to deal with kind of what was happening more so acutely in my life at the time. I was in a long term relationship that was starting to kind of wane off and on I just, I bought a ring for my girlfriend at the time, and we went to Mexico and I was going to ask her to marry me and we basically kind of broke up at while I'm about ready to like ask her to marry me. Yeah, so I had like, given the ring, you know, to the waiter and basically had to go get the ring kind of like, Wait, hold on, like, you know, so that that happened. There was also some stuff going on in my professional life with equinox and with work, there was some turmoil where I'd switched gyms. And that wasn't going real great. My parents at the time. You know, they were having some issues within themselves. I'm pretty close with my parents. They were getting divorced, you know, and they're much older, obviously getting divorced at a much older age. And obviously I wasn't a kid anymore. So I don't think that that affected me the same as it would but there was some of that there was just a lot of things going on. I'd gotten into a car wreck And it wasn't necessarily like,
Bethany Londyn 20:03
everything happening at once basic. Yes, yeah. And so
Aaron Delgrolice 20:07
it was kind of the perfect storm of, and then I just started, you know, having anxiety started becoming very prevalent in my life and panic attacks, I would wake up in the middle of the night, you know, out of a dead sleep just like freaked out heart pounding, sweating, you know, thinking I was going to die, you know, it's going to have a heart attack or something. And a lot of it actually said started manifesting with I was those started getting chest pains, and like, just, you know, weird things that were going on that started to freak me out. And so during that process, you know, I, me and my girlfriend, we like kind of broken up, got back together, she moved out because we were living together. Then we like got broken up, got back together a couple of times. She was going to school for to be a psychologist. So she wanted me to go see a psychiatrist and possibly get off meds. Yeah, so she was kind of pushing that angle and, and, you know, no fault to her. She was turning to help she was she was doing what she educated on and then whatever. And so then I started going to all these other doctors, I went to my general practitioner a few times. You know, he just gave me basically like Valium or Ativan. You know, told me I was fine. I had an endoscopy, which is where they put the camera down your throat because I thought, Okay, I have an ulcer, I don't know what's going on. I had bloodwork I had just about every test you What is wrong with me, right? Now don't freak it out. Because I'm like, it's cancer. It's this, it's heart attacks, it's, you know, and so you're getting in your head, you're getting a little being a little bit of like, a hypochondriac and, and the anxiety just started running even more rampid at that point. So and then basically, my girlfriend and I broke up for good. Finally, we broke up like two times. And finally, the third time was like that. And then so everything just kind of hit me at once. I was now by myself after almost an eight year relationship. I was having all these problems, all these, you know, pain and panic attacks and all this stuff. And I just wasn't getting any answers. And I tried. I tried doing SSRIs which are anti-anxiety, you tried to do that, that was actually maybe looking worse. And so finally, I was like, I I can't live like this. What What am I going to do? I need to change something. And so having been a trainer at the time, you know, I still even though I was a trainer wasn't that healthy? Really? Yeah, it worked out and stuff but I didn't really look into the depths of the real multifaceted approach when it comes to like holistic healing and all of the other areas. So then that's when I just started looking into like breathwork and meditation and then I started stumbling on in those by guest searches and like reading books, like the Power of Now
Bethany Londyn 23:09
like I need to, I'm going to solve this for myself, basically. Exactly.
How trauma can be a catalyst for healing
Aaron Delgrolice 23:13
Yeah. So that trauma for me and this is what I tell people that trauma is usually the great you know, people want to talk about motivation or inspiration or whatever and trauma is usually the result or the great kind of catalyst for that for most people. physical mental emotional trauma, right? Either suffering maybe something physical, a heart attack, some some health scare, some emotional trauma, right death in the family or something very close to happening, a breakup, a divorce, things like that, right? And so that was kind of what did it for me it was it was a manifestation of physical, emotional and spiritual. I was having all of these I was at a crossroads with all of these things, and it all manifested into this experience for me that made me go wow, I don't like the way I feel. I was depressed. I was sad. I was heartbroken. I was I had no energy I was like, I was having chest pains. I was having panic attacks anxiety it was freaking out. And that's when I was like Okay, I gotta change I can't live the rest of my life like this there was a couple moments are like am I going to feel like this the rest of my life. And so that was when I started my own healing journey. And as I did that, God the universe you know that my path, energy, law of attraction, you know, all of those things, whatever you know, you call it and look at and, and believe in started to kind of open up for me I started doing positive affirmations. I would lay in bed at night and create my own affirmations or read daily affirmations. I'm constantly trying to change my mindset, how I spoke to myself. Like said, I started reading books, like the power of noun, letting go the pathway of surrender a lot of those type of books, having conversations with people looking at more like physical part of these things like movement therapy and massage therapy and acupuncture and yeah, you know,
Bethany Londyn 25:24
there's emotions out.
Aaron Delgrolice 25:26
Yeah, well, and not only that, I mean, your, your issues, hold your tissues, or your tissues hold your issues,
Bethany Londyn 25:34
or that, but it's Yeah, I love it.
Aaron Delgrolice 25:37
Yeah. And so, you know, that's, that's the thing for me is like all of this stuff, like we were talking about earlier. You, you embody it, you you take these things in and what what I was gonna say to it, that is, you know, your tissues hold your issues. But it can go both ways. So emotional pain and psychological pain can manifest in physical pain, physical pain can manifest in emotional and psychological pain, they're all tied together, they're all intertwined. You know, so you can hurt yourself, right? And all of a sudden, now, you're on painkillers, you can't move the way you used to gain a bunch of weight. Now, all of a sudden, you're depressed, you're emotionally spiritually disconnected. Or vice versa. You know, maybe like for me, I started having psychological and emotional pain that started manifesting in physical pain. And then my body I stopped eating, I lost a bunch of weight. I started kind of curating a little bit. And that was when I was like, I, you know, like I said, I gotta, I gotta find a new way. I gotta find some out and I started
Bethany Londyn 26:38
waiting for this quantum leap.
Aaron Delgrolice 26:41
Well, we're talking about it. The quantum leap was sound.
Bethany Londyn 26:46
This sounds this doesn't sound like a leap. This sounds like a lot of Yeah, it sounds like a journey was a big journey. Well, I don't how long was that? I'm curious, like that period
Aaron Delgrolice 26:58
of time. Though, that was eight years ago.
Bethany Londyn 27:02
And that like, Was it like an, like, a year? Was it like six months? Yeah, that was probably
Aaron Delgrolice 27:07
a good bout a year, I would say, okay, between the breakup, and the multiple breakups of my parents, the equinox, the all of that, I would say, that was probably about a year's worth or so maybe,
Bethany Londyn 27:24
to the doctors and the therapists and the breath work and like starting to dig yourself out.
Aaron Delgrolice 27:30
Well, I didn't start doing that stuff. I was I didn't start doing that. Yeah, I mean, the whole first year, so it was just dealing with everything. And then for six months after that, I would say it was a good year and a half of dealing with trauma, going to doctors doing all that stuff. The actual like, manifestation of me healing didn't come until I even after I broke up my girlfriend, I was depressed. And I sat around for probably a few months and actually just didn't do anything was just in a hole. And just didn't watch like Game of Thrones, like, non stop and just, you know, basically set in my sadness. But to your point, so quantum leap. So I don't see a quantum leap is like, you know, there, there was the moment where I was like, I can't live like this, right? That was in my
Bethany Londyn 28:24
head, like a bottom point. Right.
Aaron Delgrolice 28:27
But a quantum leap to me is something that's been going on for the last eight years, basically, it wasn't something that happened in a week, or a day or a month. I feel like that kind of the same thing with with anything that we do in life. Most of the time. Now, don't get me wrong, there's people that get have a near death experience. And all of a sudden, they change everything that they're doing in their life, they do 100, complete 180 That stuff, most of us, I feel like most of us, you have this realization, then the work begins. And then that's the day and the day out and a year goes by and then maybe you feel a little better. And then two years, and then three years. And then for like
Bethany Londyn 29:08
an artist, they can produce like an amazing piece of art or something in like, I don't know, an hour, but really their skills took years to develop. And so people say, Oh, that's not worth $1,000 You just did it in 20 minutes, you know, you're like, No, I
Aaron Delgrolice 29:23
haven't. Oh, people don't see that journey. Yeah. See the time and effort and the years of struggle. And, you know, that was what was for me was yeah, that those moments and those panic attacks and that, that that brief point in time was like, I can't live like this that leaked my mindset and my, my whole trajectory. That was my quantum leap and my trajectory of my life, basically, where all of those things have now brought me to this point where we're having this conversation eight years later, and other other things among there, but I'm the in a better place physically, mentally, emotionally, than I ever have been, I've changed my whole mindset, my whole life has changed. And those things that I went through were, even though they were very difficult, were the best things to ever happen to me. Those things propelled me forward into that leap those, those were what those traumas essentially was what, you know, manifested this, the leap that, that I took in my mind of, of who I wanted to be, and, or knowing that I wanted to change and live differently. So you
Bethany Londyn 30:36
came across, so you start doing the affirmations and the manifestations? And then
Aaron Delgrolice 30:43
just, I just looked, I don't know, it was it was interesting. I just started looking into just different ways of, of healing basic. Yeah, yeah, more holistic ways. And in that process, I started coming across, because a lot of it still had to do with fitness. In my opinion, even though I was relatively fit. There were still things I wasn't doing even as a trainer that I felt like I could be better at when it came to fitness and movement. And so that was when I actually started looking into like, physical therapy and acupuncture and that type of stuff as well, in conjunction with the breath work and the meditations in the affirmation. So not only the psychological, but the spiritual and the physical. And so that was when I started coming across some of the nervous systems training in the neurology training, I found a couple pages called Z health and applied movement, neurology. And somehow, through my searches, and my rabbit hole searches, these started popping up on my feet. And so I was like, wow, you know, what is this stuff? It looks really interesting to me, what is the I didn't even really know much about the nervous system, even at the time, and I'd already been a trainer, like I said, for seven or eight years. I mean, I knew enough about anatomy and biomechanics, and kinesiology and basic nutrition and some of that stuff, but I didn't know really anything about breathwork
Bethany Londyn 32:06
started calling to you, that absolutely
Aaron Delgrolice 32:09
did. Not only wasn't calling to me, I mean, it was just like, it was manifesting in my life. It just, it was just part of that, that progression for me, luckily, the universe put that on my path. And or my path brought me to that type of learning, finely guided. Yes, exactly. And so, you know, that was that was then continuing to kind of catapult me or lead me towards this direction of, of really, really getting into that stuff and wanting to learn as much as I could about it. And still doing it. I mean, I've spent 1000s of dollars, and I've spent probably hundreds of hours or more studying this stuff. And I continue to do so. Because I think it's so valuable, because it helped me once I started applying these concepts in my life. And seeing the changes a lot of this stuff, too. I would have called bullshit a few years ago. Or I would say that's, that's hippie, that's spiritual, like, you know, energies and frequencies. A lot of that stuff,
Bethany Londyn 33:14
like, all the stuff that I do, yeah.
Aaron Delgrolice 33:18
I actually started applying it in my life. Yeah, and actually started, you know, manifesting real things and positive things in my life and changing, you know, so
Bethany Londyn 33:32
the eye movements is so that you started doing the eye movement, though, and like, you could feel the shifts?
Aaron Delgrolice 33:39
Well, yeah, I mean, what I started doing was just kind of, you know, diving into this information, right? And then just kind of applying these concepts. And at the time, I didn't even really quite understand, in a way, almost what I was doing, I was just interested in it because I thought, okay, these these things are cool these concepts seems seem cool in the science. You know, when I look at the mechanisms of the science of mind, okay, it makes sense. And then one of the companies that I started following a big part of their movement practice was gymnastics based movement, or calisthenics, bodyweight training, at the time, I had really started getting into that as well. So it was like this perfect kind of marrying of, well, this is what I'm already doing movement wise. And now they're layering all this cool brain and eye drills and all these things. And then when I started looking at the nervous system, and the parasympathetic nervous system, which is how you calm your body down and how you get out of anxiety and how you help your body and then the gut, you know how you make serotonin and your immune system and I started looking at the science and going wow, wait a minute, this stuff can actually help me. Then I started applying and then I started getting the results from it. And it was it's it's a long process. because it doesn't happen overnight, but what you can see is almost instant change or instant neuroplasticity in some cases. So yes, to your point, you know, I would do some breath work or I was to do some affirmations, or I just started layering in these I drills, because I understood, at least from the basic science is that, well, if you do these drills, you're going to calm your nervous system down. If you do breath work, it's going to calm your nervous system down, I was looking at it from a very kind of just broad lens of, well, anything that I can do to help my nervous system and calm my system down and just get me out of anxiety. I'm going to try. And the acupuncture was another big piece of that movement. But yeah, then the breath work and I drills. And then the more I really got into that, and looked at the science behind it, and learn the science, and then not only took those concepts and then started applying those with my clients, and then see,
Bethany Londyn 35:56
yeah, he doesn't want us in fight or flight mode.
Aaron Delgrolice 35:59
Well, fight or flight has a purpose. And so what you're talking about is your sympathetic nervous system, yes, fight or flight or freeze. Now they've added isn't that
Bethany Londyn 36:09
like so many workouts like CrossFit, you're just like, Oh, wow. And you're all out is so different?
Aaron Delgrolice 36:17
Well, so what you have to look at, there's a reason for that. And one of the quotes that I've used with you and that I use with everybody, is you should stimulate, not annihilate. And one of the concepts that we look at when you talk about the fight or flight or poor, sympathetic nervous system, is that unfortunately, most of us, given our daily lives are very, very sympathetic fight or flight driven, right? We're constantly worried about our jobs, our bills, our emails, our relationships, all of these things, and they put us in this constant state of kind of, like heightened awareness. And before and I'm going to go back to like, you know, when we're hunting and gathering and that type of thing that the nervous system, the sympathetic nervous system serves a great purpose. It alerts us to danger, it allows us to understand our surroundings. The problem is, a lot of people have talked about these concepts. We've now taken what used to be real danger. And now we're these things are manifesting without something that is not actually dangerous to us, I work problems, emails, a lot of stress that we deal with are not life threatening things. But they're playing on our nervous systems as if we were in some cases, though,
Bethany Londyn 37:39
true, if I think of some of my friends or clients,
Aaron Delgrolice 37:44
a lot of people are stuck at that overdrive mode. Now, to your point when it comes to CrossFit and working out, look, I'm here to bash fit, bash, fit. Nice. I'm not here to bash really any movement. Now I have my opinions on things. But I always tell people, Hey, if you like something, and it's gonna get you moving, then I'm all for it. I think it's good. But I think you should meet you need to educate yourself, maybe you know what you're doing. And hopefully, if you're hiring coaches or doing things, you know, find a good coach, find people that can actually guide you in these experiences and guide you correctly. But the problem with the fitness world in my opinion, and this is something that I've talked about before is that it's I'm almost what I would consider kind of like anti fitness fitness where I think more most people are doing it wrong in the sense that they're working out way too hard. They're trying to do too much way too soon. You have shows like The Biggest Loser and you have CrossFit and you have these things that are like get jacked in 60 days lose 30 pounds, you know, do all of these like kill yourself to look good? What if you're not wiping yourself up off the floor wasn't a good workout, you're not burning calories. All of these kinds of myths and like things that the fitness industry has perpetuated. The more I've learned don't get me wrong. I was a little bit like that at one point as well I did MMA for years I was a hardcore trainer I would kick people's asses I would like just go go go cuz I didn't know any different. Once I started learning the nervous system and the tissues and just really understanding these mechanisms and the science I started to realize that most people actually don't need the way what a lot of the fitness industry offers what most people eat is almost the opposite where you need to come in and this and here's here's where I put supplements set myself up a little bit, I guess and not a bad way but but counterintuitive, because people they don't want to hear Hey, this might take you six months. This might take you a year. Oh yeah. They don't want to come they want to come in they want to work out they want to lose weight. 30 days, days. Exactly. We want the pill we want surgery one day Try Amazon now, Amazon yesterday, Ronny Chang is a he's a comedian, he had a good bit about that about Amazon. It's like Amazon yesterday, like handed to me, I don't want to do anything, right. And so you know, when I get people in, I need to build a foundation. And you may be like You You're fit, we started training and you have a foundation. But I still need to go in. And I need to kind of strip a lot of those layers and a lot of those, that wiring that you've built, from years of Go, go go pushing yourself, maybe injuries, whatever is going on, I need to go in and kind of, I use the analogy. Another analogy I like to use is like remodeling a house. Or even what really what it is, is what we're going in, and we're going to gut that house, we're going to rip everything out. And we're going to rebuild. And it starts really with the foundation, we have to build your foundation. And we have to start building those connections and start rewiring everything and building everything in a new way for the nervous system. And what that means often is maybe slowing people down. Maybe taking them through mobility drills, or brain drills or things that they've never really done before, to start strengthening the other side of the nervous system, which is the parasympathetic, which can help that fight or flight. Now, the nervous system is push pull. So it's constantly pushing us or pulling us in one direction, what we want those we want the ability, when we do get stressed out when we do dealing deal with this, like fight or flight is for the other part of the nervous system that kick in and go take a breath, you've got this stay focused, stay alert, but don't freak out kind of thing. So it's kind of like it's expanding,
Bethany Londyn 41:52
which helps, we'll just because also I'm like this is geared towards like CEOs and entrepreneur, entrepreneurs. So I'm like this does support like, the mental. Like, if you think about that, obviously, you're talking about the physical, but it's so this is a this is a brain workout. Yes, you learn to exercise the mind.
Aaron Delgrolice 42:13
Yes, yes. But on top of it, what I was saying before as well is everything, you know, life is unpredictable kind of uncontrollable environments. So what part of my job is and when you look at again, I'm gonna kind of talk about the mechanisms and the science behind these things. When you do these drills, not only are they tapping into parts of your brain that deal with movement, they're also do tapping into parts of your brain. That like I said, before, deal with decision making, deal with future goal setting future planning, emotions, your ability to stay cool under pressure to make a business decision, to give a presentation, to interact with a co worker to keep your cool to keep your emotions to be positive, and energetic and loving. And let that kind of emanate from you. And those frequencies and when you when you train these systems, and you make your nervous system more robust, and you make your movement and these mechanisms of your brain and your vestibular system and your cerebellum, and all of these things are firing it you know, properly and positively, you know, you know firing in the right way that you're going to be better you're going to think clearer, your memory is going to improve your cognition, your your overall outlook on life, your mindset. So a big part of it is mindset. How do you approach every day? How do you approach your meetings? How do you approach these things as as a CEO, as a business owner or whatever, in your daily life, and then it's all linked, none of this, you can't separate any of it. That's why, you know, the brain training is important, but also the movement training is another outlet for that. Because by doing movement training, we're also tapping into those mechanisms. We're reducing stress, we're creating a better mind body connection, you're building confidence, you're learning more about yourself and your body that starts to emanate in what's basically a frequency of vibration, you start to vibe. And you attract that, and you put that
Bethany Londyn 44:20
out there and then he calls in clients like me out of the blue.
Aaron Delgrolice 44:23
And you succeed and then you get people attracted to you like minded people, like you like I found you obviously through a friend of a friend. Right. And so lately my business and a lot of what I've been getting has been from one law of attraction affirmations but to just what I'm putting out there, the universe is sending back to me and I'm getting people like you and this other kid who had because I deal with concussions who had a major brain injury. I've dealt with other people that because that's part of my work too is helping people overcome injury is and, and not you don't even have to have a brain injury, obviously to train these things, but I've trained people with concussions with strokes with that type of stuff. And so I'm getting these these things and people that are coming on to my path and vice versa. And it's been amazing, because for my business as well, because, obviously, you know, I love helping people, but it's also a business, this is something that this is what I do professionally. It is just been amazing for me, because I'm getting like minded people who want to learn, I'm not just getting some persons like, Oh, I just want to lose 20 pounds, or that really isn't like, you know, that doesn't, I guess see the value and the benefit really want to learn these concepts. I've been very fortunate that a lot of the clients and all of the clients recently that have been attracted to me, fit my business very well and fit with me very well. Because as a coach, we need to work as a team, you know, we have to work together. So I've been fortunate that my energy is attracting energy that wants to work with me, and it's, you know, it's been great.
Bethany Londyn 46:11
So what I'm curious, what can you share some of your affirmations that people would benefit from?
Aaron Delgrolice 46:17
Sure, yeah, um, one of the things that one of the best things I did was that I just started with was I just had a book that had a daily affirmation. So every day it has, you know, it has 365, basically, or whatever. And literally, every day I would read one of those, one of the things that I've done so a few a few other things I've done so I had a friend of mine that you know, those bracelets that have the little like the it's like a washer, and you can stamp a word into it.
Bethany Londyn 46:45
Yeah, I just took mine off last week. I've had it on for like three years.
Aaron Delgrolice 46:49
Yeah, well, what they say is you take it off when you don't need it anymore. Suppose Oh,
Bethany Londyn 46:56
mine was the the light be the light?
The Power of practicing gratitude and being grateful.
Aaron Delgrolice 46:59
Yeah, so mine was I had a friend and a friend of mine make me one of those friend of mine, she she had come from the corporate world switched to being a trainer did yoga did massage Did you know sound bowls did a lot of healing stuff. So I've been fortunate that I have friends in the business. And I know people that do that stuff as well. Anyway, she made me a bracelet and on mine and said happy, healthy. And so for the longest time, what I would just tell myself is I'm happy, I'm healthy, I'm happy, I'm healthy. Like constantly throughout the day, I would just wired into my brain, even just out of nowhere. I'd be in the shower, or I'd be somewhere else. I was like I'm happy, I'm healthy, I'm happy, I'm healthy. One of the other ones that I they did, and bear with me, it's a little longer. I don't know if I remember it all. Now I haven't practiced it lately. But I created one, bring it back. I'm happy, I'm healthy, I'm positive, I'm wealthy, life is good. I feel good. Oh, she never forgot it. I'm happy, I'm healthy and positive and wealthy. Life is good, I feel good. I'm grateful for my life and all my experiences. And all of my friends and family or you know, something along those lines, and I have it written down really
Bethany Londyn 48:12
all encompassing.
Aaron Delgrolice 48:14
Yeah. And that's what I try to do. And one of the one of the biggest things is practicing gratitude. So a lot of times when I lay in bed at night, I just say thank you. Just thank you, thank you, God, Thank you universe, thank you for my life, I have a roof over my head, I'm in a war bed. You know, I have food. You know, a lot of times I have my cat next to me, Cleo. So it's like, I just say thank you for everything. And really China you just feel very grateful for all of the experiences that I've had in my life, I've lived a very fortunate life. Aside from the traumas and stuff I've dealt with those things have have propelled me and lead me to where I'm at now. And those traumas and experiences have helped me grow. And I say thank you for that. Thank you for the experience I had with you know, my girlfriend and all of that, that helped me grow and change and I'm better because of it. It everything that I've gone through and then everything now that I've continued to go through but but is manifesting, life is good. My business is really great. And don't get me wrong. I mean, it's not always perfect. There's still days when I don't feel great down and but the anxiety is, is pretty much all gone. Anytime that I get down now I guess step out of it much quicker. I can do a breath drill, a breath work, I can do an eye drill, I can do some movement. And what used to last maybe days now only lasts maybe minutes or hours where I snap out of this stuff. My mindset has completely changed. And but again, it's a work in progress. I'm not going to sit here and pretend like you know, I'm perfect. I still have so much work to do. It never stops. I'm constantly trying to grow I'm constantly trying to learn I still have a lot of faults and a lot of things that, you know, I'm working through one,
Bethany Londyn 50:04
how beautiful is it, I have to say that you are aware, because so many people are like, I'm perfect. I don't need to learn anything like I am a No at all or whatever. Right. And I do believe that knowledge is within. But I think it's really beautiful to be somebody that is constantly growing and open to that, as well, why I agree.
Aaron Delgrolice 50:25
And I think maybe once you're humbled enough, then then you can go on that journey. And you know, don't get me wrong, there's still times because part of my work was I would be a little cocky and a little arrogant, where I think maybe I'm better or I know something or especially when it comes to fitness stuff. You know, I still see a lot of fitness stuff that drives me crazy. And I'm like, Man, I could do that better, I'm better I have better information or whatever, right? But that is still part of my work is staying humble. And still, I'm trying to just love and be okay, and be like, cool, you know, good for them. Like, even if I whatever, like so, yes, I think once you're humbled enough, and you start to go wait a minute, like, you never really you don't know what you don't know. But I also starting to learn like I still got a long way to go. I'm never going to learn it all. And that's okay. But I want to keep learning and growing as much as I can in the process and, and try to stay humble, you know, as well.
Bethany Londyn 51:21
So okay, so my, my ending question is, what would you say? Because it's easier to connect the dots looking back than it is to connect dots looking forward? What are three keys to quantum leaping?
Aaron Delgrolice 51:37
Three? Well, I think, one, what you just basically said is conscious awareness. So I think in my opinion, so what I when I'm looking at Quantum leaping, obviously, you know the definition, you're probably looking something that's going to propel you, you know, probably very quickly this this huge, like Joe, where I think yes, that can happen. But I also think that huge jump takes years of work, which almost seems weird, almost seems like like a juxtaposition, right of like, are almost like a catch 22 How can I? Yes, a paradox. Thank you. How can you jump so far? So quickly? You can't but I think, to your question, I think the first is conscious awareness. So conscious awareness comes in many ways. Again, it could be trauma, it could be something, something, something has to kind of hit you. Somehow, I don't know what that is, whether you want it bad enough, or something outside, does something to you, but conscious awareness of hey, I need to change, right? Something needs to change in my life, something, I need to do something differently
Bethany Londyn 52:45
done with this in house.
Aaron Delgrolice 52:49
Absolutely. The second I'd say is then action, you have to take action on that. And then basically, the third would be consistency of, you know, in a sense to me, I'm describing what you need to do to change your life. If you want to change a habit, if you want to read more if you want to learn a new language, if you want to, you know, start a new career, you want to lose 100 pounds, or whatever it is that that essentially is the start of that leap. Because if say you want to leave you know, I'm gonna I'm gonna go back to fitness, say you want to get out of pain that you've been in for 10 years and you want to lose 100 pounds. Well, that's not going to you can you can lead from that. But it might take you a year to write that whole thing. But really what it comes down to is conscious awareness, action, and then consistency. If you don't do those things, you're going to stay in the same place. You're never going to propel yourself forward or change, you know, or leap into what you want. So I
Bethany Londyn 53:50
love it. Well, thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing all about your journey, your deep dives and your uplifting getting out of it. And wait, you guys were talking about maybe doing a workshop or webinar someday because I think him and I would be a beautiful collaboration, actually, my friend is the one that had it. workout with us.
Aaron Delgrolice 54:15
And then the universe has brought us together for you girl.
Bethany Londyn 54:18
She's like, I know why you guys are working out together that I'm like, okay. Yeah, because I deal a lot with decision making fatigue with my with my clients as well. So it'd be cool to like bring in like the physical way of doing it and then the energetic way of doing it. And then if you want your trainer if you're somewhere in the world and you want your trainer to learn from Aaron sure he's starting some sort of waiting lists for some program that he's going to bring be bringing out
Aaron Delgrolice 54:46
the hybrid fitness training method neural flow, yes. I have been putting together kind of my own methodologies of what I kind of consider like the Bruce Lee technique or method where I take pieces of a lot of things and put them all into one you kind of take the best parts of, I'm trying to take, you know, the parts of all the stuff that I've learned when it comes to kettlebells and movement, bodyweight training and nervous system and breathwork and eyes and all of that. Make my own system and I've been working on that for a little while as well. And so, lots lots to come. But yeah,
Bethany Londyn 55:25
in the meantime, where can people find you?
Aaron Delgrolice 55:29
So Instagram hybrid fitness training. I have the same I have a YouTube channel I haven't been as active on there. There's, I still got about 150 videos on there. They're a little bit older, I need to get back into maybe put some new videos but same thing hybrid fitness training is my YouTube channel. Hybrid fitness. training.com is my website. They can email me at hybrid fitness training L A at Gmail, Instagram, probably the best place that's where I put a lot of my content.
Bethany Londyn 55:59
Yeah, check him out on Instagram, you'll you'll be impressed. Hybrid fitness training.
Aaron Delgrolice 56:03
Training, because there's lots of hybrid fitness is out there, but
Bethany Londyn 56:09
training. And then you can see him walk up polls or whatever, whatever it is that you do, or walk up the air.
Aaron Delgrolice 56:17
Yes, air walks in my Yeah.
Bethany Londyn 56:21
Oh, my goodness. Very, very talented. Thank you. Amazing. Thank you. So we'll have a copy of the show notes on line tag. Tag him if there's a quote that he shared or something that was inspiring, and yeah, thank you for being a part of our journey.
Aaron Delgrolice 56:39
Yeah, it was great. Thank you, Bethany. And we just scratched the surface. I have so much more I can tell.
Bethany Londyn 56:45
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